Focus on Yourself

 "Now you can just focus on yourself"

That's the line a woman always gets when they get rejected or broken up with.

Do men get this line told them?

Probably not.

It's very frustrating to hear this being told you over and over again.

Since the dating scene now is all hook up culture and situationships.

I spent years focusing on myself.

Going through a horrible break up with a mentally abusive man,

it kind of forces you to work on yourself and discover who you are.

I know who I am and I'm proud of the work I put in for myself.

That's why I decided it was time to date.

I didn't even attempt to kiss or hook up or date during those years.

It truly was all about me.

I am ready for that new relationship because I dated myself.

Dating yourself is a beautiful way to discover who you are as a person.

I can take care of myself and make myself happy.

I am my own provider.

A relationship, for me, is more about connection and romance.

A partnership.

But I have tried and failed over the past year.

I have tried hook ups and wasn't my style.

I am too much of a lover girl and wanting only one person to be with.

I tried dating and those all ended in heart break,

some hurting more than others.

I wish for once I can find someone who would fight to keep me in their life,

as hard as I fought to try and keep them in mine.

But you know "focus on yourself"

because that will help me.

How will this help me?

Especially when I have already put in the work.

Maybe some people are not meant to be in a relationship.

We are made to be single.

Maybe a partner for us doesn't always exist.

Solitude can be lonely.

But at least I am focusing on myself.